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How do you say goodbye?

Sunday, 9 January 2011

How do you say goodbye?

There are many ways to say goodbye, but the most difficult goodbyes are the ones that underline a cross road of opportunity. They are the moment when hope, wrapped up in the future of two people, is no longer a gift that holds value or meaning.

For some, this cross in the road of opportunity is only reached after many years of hurt and anguish, for others, after only a moment of disappointment. But whenever it is reached much bravery is required in order to face that moment with grace. Strength will also inevitably be needed, so to prevent us from bearing ill will, because bitter goodbyes linger long in the memory and stain the soul.

In addition to bravery and strength we need to be wary, because bearing a darkened heart makes us cast at the fates with a forked tongue. In the end, any vehement remonstrations or utterances will serve only to invite the wrath of karma, the accounting friend of fate who stands ready to measure man’s worth. This is important because no matter the sense of sadness felt, spite lies always in waiting to diminish the value of our souls.

To say goodbye after fate or time lends a hand, therefore, means there can be no looking back. Simply utter the words and continue your journey along another path. Reflection holds no merit from the other side of goodbye, as this is where sadness dwells. Sadness endures only in holding on to hurt long after the opportunity to let go has passed. We should never say goodbye in the hope of meeting later. We should say goodbye and let go, trusting if anything to fate. What will be, should always be allowed to be!

Letting go is an art form designed for the soul. It is also a discipline that many minds find hard to grasp, mainly because we think we own the moments that pass at the tick of a clock. The reality is we share them. Sometimes we walk moments with many and in our most passionate displays with only one other and we would long for them to last forever. But only fate, faith or forbearance can decree how long they should last.

Notwithstanding this, we are not deterred from hanging on to some of those moments we share, as they carry us and inspire us to better living. This is the cross road of opportunity that also resides in every goodbye. In life goodbye allows us another chance to get right what we got wrong. Goodbye is never a rejection, it is simply an aspiration to a brighter day.

The saddest goodbyes however, are the ones that offer very little in the way of opportunity at the parting. They are the moments, when quite palpably, it is revealed to us that human love will not conquer all. They are the moments when goodbye means for forever, or until such time as we are granted the wish to walk with a loved one again. Pain is born of such goodbyes and carried until that wish is granted. Therefore, it is better not to say goodbye in those circumstances. For my part I elect to say “I will still continue to walk with you, but I will just walk on the other side of the road...” Then try my damnedest to walk every step thereafter, as though I mean it!


Anonymous said...

I will walk on the other side of the road..I will use this term from now on.

Anonymous said...

Thank you. I will come back to this a few times no doubt.


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